How I broke up with my bf and job in 4 days (part 1)

Today, we’re getting into how I broke up with my boyfriend and job in four days. No, these weren’t the same four days. But, there's significance in how quickly I went from decision to action. 

I'm breaking this into two parts as I have a lot to share (and unpack ;) ) about next week's topic – breaking up with my job. 

The question I’ve gotten most as I’ve told people that I quit my job to pursue coaching is “how did you know you were ready to do it?” and the reflection of “wow, that is brave.” In other words, how did I build enough conviction to take this leap. That’s what I’ll share today and next week. 

Let's dive into part one…

The first place to start is how I finally began to reconnect to my intuition. I had been following intuitive pings as I did more and more coaching, but I still wasn't hearing it loudly or clearly. 

It was April of 2020, and deep in the throes of Covid, when my long-term partner and I decided to have the big life talks that everyone was using isolation for. We had been dating for over four years and living together for two. We started talking about getting married and if that was something that both of us wanted. 

I remember debriefing one of those conversations with my mom over the phone while at the dog park with my dog, Rosemary. As I described our conversations to her, I felt knots in my stomach. There was no excitement, anticipation or desire that you should feel when considering such a big decision. 

That was my intuition clearly telling me no. I realized that my body was giving me every clue that i needed. Even if my mind was still wrestling with the decision, considering all of “what-ifs” and pros and cons, my body was telling me the answer in flashing neon lights. 

That was enough for me. We had an honest conversation the following day and decided to end our relationship. If you’re following along closely, we broke up in two days, not four. 

How does this relate to my recent decision to leave my job? 

Breaking up with my partner was one of the best things I’ve done as an adult. Hard, scary and unmooring, yes. But, I haven’t regretted it for a minute. It gave me the space and charge to redesign my personal life, making it sparkle.

Most importantly, it helped reconnect and regain trust in my intuition again. 

Stay tuned next week for more on how I built the conviction to quit my job.