How I broke up with my bf and job in 4 days (part 2)
Ok, here we are! The culmination of the journey we've been on over the last few weeks.
As I shared last week, I broke up with my long-term partner in April 2020. It was the first decision I made using my intuition in YEARS, and helped me regain trust and connection to my inner compass.
Fast forward to the second half of 2022, and here’s how I used that experience to make my big move – leaving my full-time job to go all in on coaching.
This was a JOURNEY. I’m breaking this down into a few orderly steps to make it easier to digest, but know that it wasn’t this straight-forward or linear.
I got a ping of intuition. One afternoon last summer, I was sitting at my desk after my 10th zoom call of the day feeling depleted, and thought to myself: “I want my life to be more dynamic.” I realized that I wanted my professional life to be a mix of things that got me out from behind my screen and into the world – public speaking, facilitating, writing and coaching. I thought I would start to move towards this in 2023 and perhaps launch into this in 2024.
I was reminded to listen to my intuition, not just to hear it. I started to get more and more burnt out at work. The role played to my strengths and I found it interesting, but there were a lot of ups and downs that had started to drain me. I recounted a hodge-podge of feelings to my coach, telling her that I was burnt out but hesitant to leave my job for a bunch of practical reasons. She said to me, “you can hear exactly what your intuition is telling you to do [leave my job], but you aren’t listening to it.”
I honored my self-worth. This was the piece that moved me to action. As we neared the end of 2022, my boss called me to tell me that I didn’t get any of the additional resources that I had requested for 2023. Everything that had been burning me out was going to stay the same or get worse. As I digested that conversation, I felt more and more conviction that I couldn’t stay. I couldn’t sign myself up for more stress, allowing burn out to erode my wellbeing.
I worked through my fears. The last piece was working through my fears. I had been holding on to all these fears, ranging from the practical to the emotional, turning over them again and again in my mind. One afternoon, I decided to write them down. I came up with solutions for a few of them, and realized that others I could figure out with time. The simple act of writing them down made them seem instantly less scary. By the time I talked about them with my coach a day or two later, I wasn’t worried about them at all. I trusted myself to figure out solutions.
That was it. Steps 2-4 happened within a few-day period in December 2022, and built off the confidence I had gained from breaking up with my partner. I made the decision to quit and pursue coaching on a Saturday morning while walking Rosemary (as I'm doing while making all major decisions apparently) and let myself sit with it for a few days to make sure it truly felt like the right choice. Four-days later, I submitted notice to my boss.
So there you have it. This is how I went from Meh to Great over the past five years, and how I’m launching myself towards Magnificent. How I got unstuck and created my own path.
I hope this has given inspiration for your own journey. I would love to hear from you – where do you want me to go deeper? Which part of my journey or other topics can I dive to be helpful to you?
