How I’m going from ‘meh’ to ‘magnificent’

Welcome to the first edition of my newly revamped newsletter. I’ll be using this space to share more about my personal journey – sharing more candidly and intimately than ever before. 

And, I’ll be leaning into the topics we’re constantly exploring together: how to get unstuck and create your own path. All through the unique lens of what it means to be an ambitious, millennial woman. 

Let’s start with my personal journey, as I know that’s what you’re most interested in. 

In the language of one of my favorite personality tests, I am a “Maximizer,” meaning I love to take things from “good to great.” I’ve been thinking about this idea a lot recently, as I’ve realized that I’m on a journey and a mission to take my life from “Meh to Magnificent” during my 30s. 

I moved from Meh to Great from 30 to 35, and am now ruthlessly pursuing Magnificent as I get closer and closer to 40. I’m not even 36 yet, so pardon the drama. 

Here is my handy “Meh to Magnificent” gauge which I'll be using to measure my progress. Excuse me for a minute while I file a copyright.  

My clients ask me all the time: “how did you do it?” meaning how did I get unstuck, create my own path and begin living a BIG life. I haven’t had the forum or space to share fully. But here is how. These are the spark notes of everything that I’ll be diving into in my next few newsletters. 

Each of your stories is different, but my hope is that this helps you see that you’re not alone in this journey and inspires you. 

Grinding through my late 20s: Took a big job that didn’t feel right, but gave me prestige, professional growth and money. Spent two years on a plane, hunched over my laptop churning out slides. Got totally disconnected from my family, my body and any sense of balance. 

 Making big moves to try to be 30 and thriving: Moved to a new city, in with my boyfriend and to a new job within the first six months after turning 30. Ran from old job and burn out to new job and more burn out. Realized that you should only ever move for a PULL, not a PUSH. 

Muddling through my early 30s: Found myself in the new job, which I thought was going to be the panacea, still exhausted. Could not get out of the morass. I was STUCK. 

Taking small steps to move from meh to good: Started working with a career coach. Set boundaries with work and reclaimed my life. Began to reconnect with my intuition and realign my life with my values  – created a role aligned with my superpowers (working with people), moved back to NYC and broke up with my partner.  

Starting to see sparks of purpose: Loved working with my coach so much that I followed a hint of intuition and enrolled in coach training. Started my coaching business / side hustle and expanded it gradually over time. 

Feeling great and burnt out by 35: Had a big role that I loved: Chief of Staff at a high-growth, mission-driven business. Led a team, was on the management team, and got to lean into most of my strengths. Had time and energy to invest in my priorities – being with my family and friends, coaching and pursuing my hobbies. 

However, I was intellectually interested in my job, but it wasn’t my purpose. That made it harder to manage the ups and downs. So I slowly and surely started to get burnt out again. 

So here I am today, creating my own path. Stepping off the corporate ladder, moving into a space that is entirely unknown, taking a major leap and going for Magnificent. Or “being aggressive at life” as one of my coworkers so aptly described.